September 4, 2010

Greetings my Friend,
I saw an ad on TV about whitening your teeth. Next I see an ad where a buff woman is working out at the gym. Another ad shows a woman who is addicted to “name brand” clothes and her friends are doing an “intervention.” In my mind I wonder if people realize that life isn’t about “looks” and that one day…..we will not be “what we were.” I also wonder if people will give up on people when they are not as attractive as they once were. Then I think about an ad where the man can’t “perform” like he used to. At that point I wonder if young people realize that a day may come where that fun piece of “equipment” may not perform like it once did. Next I wonder if people may even give up on another just because they can’t “play” like they once did.
God gave us our sensual nature. Reading the Song of Solomon is a very sensual book in the Bible. It is a gift and I believe we need to be sensitive as to how we use this gift. God created us to be sexual beings. He created Adam and Eve and then He told them to go forth and multiply. That is the way we multiply by being sexual. Now we do need to consider God’s ways in order to get the fulfillment that this act can bring. Again I find that if we are not reading God’s Word, then we sometimes will make God the way we want Him to be. Polygamy, rape, incest and homosexuality are all in the Bible. I often hear people say “well, it is in the Bible.” What you don’t hear though is that they aren’t being promoted as a “wonderful or right” thing. God actually says at times “that is detestable to me.”

I also love this illustration. God is the potter. He shapes us like we would shape a piece of clay. I always think of Ghost when I see this illustration. The potter will form an image out of clay. He will work it to the point that it is perfect and then it is set on a shelf prepared and available for use. The “created” cannot choose to be something else. The “created” cannot “talk back to the Potter. It is what it is.
God gave us a mind and we are able to make decisions as we choose. Many of us have pets. Even though they are not “wild” anymore, they still function the way they were created to be. Our cats chase bugs. If a mouse happens by, they will try to “pounce” on it. A dog will bark when they hear something. They will eat any and everything they can get their mouths on. If someone or something tries to harm you, they will defend you.
As we age, our bodies change. Once we are past our “prime” years our bodies, our minds are not what they once were. Junior and I were in our 40’s and 50’s when we married. We were able to do “man and wife” stuff and we HAD a lot of fun. Today if we snuggle, hold hands and kiss, well that’s ok. Our equipment doesn’t do what it once did and we find closeness in other ways that are mutually comfortable. We’ve invested ourselves in each other. We know stuff that other people will never know about each of us. Junior is my best friend, I am his and to be honest……I don’t want to trade him in on a new man, just because we aren’t what we were when we married. I am very grateful for the wonderful memories we have. I am grateful that he looks at me as if I am the most beautiful woman in the world. To me he is still my “Prince Charming.”
We made a vow when we married, “For better or for worse.” We did not say “for now until you are no fun.” We both wanted to have someone who is committed to us till “the end.” It is a comfort to me to know that we are that committed. It is a comfort to me to know that I am not a throw away woman.
That reminds me. When we were dating we went to a Single’s dance. Part of what Junior was looking for was a woman who would not be over concerned when he talked to other women. At the dance, he sat me down and went to ask another woman for a dance. She was tall, had legs up to “there” and hair down to “there.” She was gorgeous. As I sat at the table I looked around, hoping no other man would ask me to dance. Junior watched my reaction. When he came back to get me as we slow danced I told him. See “that girl”, the one he danced with. I said she is the type guys like to “play” with. “Me”, I am the type you take home and keep. Well, Junior took me home and is keeping me. I guess I had that one “pegged” right.
I am generally not the “jealous” type. Junior isn’t either. We believe we belong to the other one and I am happy about that. Junior will talk to other women and I know that I know that I am the one he will always come home to. We don’t “play” the field inside of marriage either. I like that a whole lot.
As I end this I wonder, “How committed are you or do you want to be?”
May God bless you and keep you, make His face to shine upon you.
Love
Janet