July 8 2014

July 8 2014 Greetings My Friend, I am having a hard time focusing and getting my thoughts out this week for some reason. This is my 4th attempt to write this blog. I’ve thought about relationships and started to write then went on to think about the Creation Museum and Answers in Genesis which led to thoughts about people of long ago compared to today. My brain does that often this week seems to be more bouncing around than usual. So goes life. I think all my thoughts, let go and try again until I can get one theme going even if I tend to start off on a topic and move around. Spider webbing comes to mind. I heard a speaker one time talk about how women can start on one topic, talk about what went on at the meeting, at the dentist, at work and finish up with the topic she started on. To her they were all related. The speaker then taught that men think inside of a box, one thing at a time, close the door and move onto the next thing. No wonder men drive women crazy and women drive men crazy. Our brains are wired differently and so we experience life differently. As Junior and I continue to blend our lives together our different approaches begin to blend together. Junior has an ability to dissect something and get to the heart of the matter. For me to get to the heart of the matter I need to talk, talk some more and talk even more. In all the chatter I begin to see a solution. We’ve been married for 16 years and to be honest I think Junior is starting to understand that I don’t expect a solution, an answer each time I work through a situation. Recently I had bronchitis. My mind began working on the “why” I had it. Having had allergies most of my life I know that a lot of digging and probing goes into finding the cause and the how to deal with the trigger. I mentioned to Junior that I needed some help with this. I told him it would require a lot of talking on my part. He responded but I don’t know if he understood. As I talked about my bout of bronchitis on line, on the phone and with Junior people began suggesting things that pointed to my problem. By the end of this process I believe Junior got my need to talk. As people suggested things and I realized that the stripper I was using more than likely triggered my bronchitis we both began to explore ways to deal with this. We went to the paint store and bought a charcoal mask. This was sort of working. The more I breathed the steamier my glasses got and I can’t work without them. Next we picked up a pair of magnifying glasses so I can see, have them further down my nose etc. Junior says he is learning to shut out some of my chatter, not to ignore me but to allow me the chance to talk. He seems to be able to pick up when I need help and at that point he reenters in the dialogue with me. As a man he wants to fix things to solve the problem and they tend to be able to get to the heart of the matter right away. He now understands my process more so and we are starting to use it to benefit our lives. I am detail oriented which means I will think of those little things we need to do. He is big picture oriented and that helps me move out of detailing things to pieces thus never fully starting a project. I am more organized so I keep things running smoothly. Junior focuses on a project and not the clutter. I bring order and Junior creates and life is sweet. God has taught me to talk to Him first especially when Junior is acting so foreign to me. More often than not God shows me how Junior’s ways really help us get what we want. The same goes for Junior, God shows him how my ways help us on our journey. God wired us differently for a reason. “AND that is OK.” May God bless you and keep you make His face shine on you. Love Janet